10 Ways you Might be Unknowingly Poisoning Your Self-Esteem

4. You Don’t Eat Well

A healthy diet and fitness regimen can affect you in more ways than one. Of course, having a positive body-image is important, but a healthy lifestyle boosts both energy-levels and the types of hormones and brain chemicals that make you feel good.

Similarly, regular exercise will instill positive thoughts about the way you look. If you’re unfit and unhealthy it’s perfectly normal to feel ashamed and upset about it. Fortunately, these are often the triggers that people need to prompt them towards a healthier lifestyle.

Low self-esteem may be keeping you from getting to the gym or taking up a new sport. If it is, face these fears head on.

5. You Don’t Track Negative Thoughts

One of the easiest ways to pinpoint negative thoughts (from which bad feelings arise) is to keep some kind of journal to track them. By living your life lost in an endless stream of thoughts, you essentially give them free reign. But when you sit down to record them, to get them out on paper, it’s easy to see how ridiculous they are. Knowing and understanding them is the first step to tackling them.

This step ties in perfectly with number seven. When you realize that you’re falling victim to a negative thought pattern, you’re much better placed to go out and start challenging it.

6. You Blame too Much on Luck

Next time you achieve something great, notice your reactions. Do you put it down to luck instead of your own skills and talents? Or do you have an even more insidious thought pattern? Was it a mistake? Is somebody playing a trick on you?

As has already been mentioned above, negative self esteem reinforces itself by only taking notice of experiences that fit with its associated world view. Another way it achieves this is by interpreting contradictory experiences in its own negative way. For example, when a person with low self-esteem receives a compliment, they might think that they are being made fun of, or that the other person doesn’t really know them.

The key with overcoming this damaging mechanism is much the same as that outlined in step two: mindfulness! Catch yourself when you have these negative interpretations and question them!

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